Hands down, the most important factor to being a good singer is Confidence.
Certainly practice helps, thereby increasing your confidence as a vocalist. But above all, the courage required to sing in any capacity is the most challenging tool to develop, and the most essential.
Not to discourage shy singers out there! Confidence is challenging to obtain at first, but once you get past that initial fear, singing/performing becomes easier and easier. Start by taking small steps: sing in front of a mirror. Gradually move up to singing in front of your mom, roommate, boyfriend, whomever you feel comfortable with. As you become more bold and comfortable, expand your audience - join a choir, take voice lessons, participate in karaoke or an open mic.
Whenever I am about to perform, I take some time to myself to just close my eyes and breathe. While doing so, I remind myself that we are all human - no one is better than any one of us, and therefore, there is nothing to fear. I know that I am a talented singer. Therefore, I will do well. Silent meditation paired with reciting affirmations can really help soothe anxiety for any performance, and boost your self-esteem. Because in all reality, what does it matter? You are seizing the moment - expressing your joy/sorrow/enthusiasm for living via song - and that is truly beautiful. Life is too short to be concerned with the potential judgment of others - or judgment inflicted by yourself. Trust me, I've been there, you're not alone. But you see, your voice is the most intimate musical instrument that exists - because it is a part of you. Therefore, whatever style of singing you choose, whatever range of singer you are, in whatever capacity you use your voice - you are doing something beautiful and real. Nothing else matters.
